I suppose this is as unsurprising as it is upsetting.

People magazine is reporting that Chris Brown and Rihanna have reconciled, and are currently holed up at one of Diddy’s homes.

I know what you’re thinking: Diddy probably lent them that place so he could have his bodyguards hold Chris down while Rihanna kneed him in the balls repeatedly. Right?

Nope.

“They’re together again. They care for each other,” says a source. “While Chris is reflective and saddened about what happened, he is really happy to be with the woman he loves.”

If this is true, Rihanna, SHAME ON YOU. The eyes of the world’s young women are turned to you right now, and what do you do? Run back to the man who beat you? I don’t care how young you are or what you’re a victim of, this is your life, this is your decision, and it is reprehensible. The example you’re setting for women everywhere is nauseating. Shame, shame, shame. Get your act together, girl. This isn’t a pattern you want to set for your life, and it is not a message you want to send to your fans.

Photogs snapped some rare shots of Rihanna on the beach in Punta Mita, where she’s been staying with some close friends.

While you can’t see any of the bruising from the beating she sustained several weeks ago, the paparazzi said Rihanna looked sad in all their photos. No surprise there.

Meanwhile, Chris Brown remains in hiding, although it’s rumored that he’s begun taking anger management classes.

I’m glad Rihanna is at least out and about and spending time with her friends. It’s obviously going to be a long healing process, but we’re behind you 100%, girl!!!

The spin has begun.  After a mediocre, sorta, kinda, not really apology, Chris Brown has begun taken anger management classes.  Of course!  And they weren’t court ordered.  He’s just taking them to better himself.  I’m sure this tactic was not suggested by his PR team and has nothing to do with bettering his chances at his upcoming court date.

Why is it that abusers never take anger management classes prior to totally losing it and beating up people?  Like, Chris Brown never knew he had issues until he was punching Rihanna’s lights out?  He just had her pinned on the ground, bashing her, thinking, “Whoa…where’s all this venom coming from?  That came out of nowhere.  I obviously need to self-evaluate and get some help.”

It’s like all the killers that find Jesus on Death Row.  You couldn’t have searched a little earlier in the game?

R&B singer, Ne-Yo, wants the world to know that, though his buddy Chris Brown beat the hell out of Rihanna, he’s not willing to judge.

“I saw the picture,” Ne-Yo said of the leaked photograph of a battered Rihanna. “That just really hurt me to my heart, man. Again, I still don’t know what happened, ’cause I haven’t had the opportunity to talk to Chris yet. But to take it to that level really hurt my heart. All I can say is, I’m praying for both of them. They’re both in my prayers.”

While Wrigley’s Gum and numerous radio stations have been quick to part ways with Brown, Ne-Yo isn’t as anxious to turn his back on an old friend. “I’m not going to crucify him. I’m not going to do that. That’s still my homeboy at the end of the day,” Ne-Yo said. “For it to go to that level was wrong. I won’t say who was responsible. I won’t pick no sides. I’m just saying it was wrong it had to happen like that, and I’m praying for the both of them.”

“I won’t say who is responsible,”?  Uh, does he think Rihanna bashed herself in the face?

I’m sorry but  I feel that there is a time when you have to be brave and draw a line and take a stand and do every other cliche that equals “not gonna take it”.  This is one of those times.  “For it to go to that level was wrong,” and “…it was wrong it had to happen like that,” sounds minimizing to me.  People look up to celebrities; I have no idea why, but they do.  So, Ne-Yo and all these other fencesitters have a responsibility to send the message that violence, under any circumstance is not okay.

I’ve forgiven Ne-Yo for a lot.  I forgave him for being on that hellacious Rosie O’Donnell variety show.  But this…I don’t know.

Hey, guys, in case you haven’t noticed, TMZ ran a photo taken of Rihanna after she got her ass kicked by Chris Brown.

Now the Los Angeles Police Department is investigating the leak of the photo from its files, saying in a statement it “takes seriously its duty to maintain the confidentiality of victims of domestic violence.”

Said Rihanna’s father, Ronald Fenty, when asked about the photo leak: “It’s good and it’s bad to see the picture because there’s other people who were thinking differently, that (Rihanna’s injuries) may not be that bad, just a little spank or a little thing.”

TMZ chief Harvey Levin insists the photo of a bruised Rihanna that his website published last night was “represented” as totally legit when they secured it — that is, it wasn’t stolen from the LAPD. Riiiight, Harvey. I’m so sure you thought that the LAPD was happy to sell you a photo of a domestic violence victim. The mayor probably even offered to autograph it, right?

Oh, and for those of you who think I shouldn’t have run that photo: I don’t know about you guys, but it’s my job to read all the comments posted on this site, on ALL Rihanna/Chris Brown posts, and I’ll tell you that the comments claiming that Rihanna “had it coming” or that Chris Brown was “still their hero” have died WAY DOWN since this photo leaked last night. That’s was the intended result, and I hope this photo helps show the world that the end result of domestic violence is not something to be excused or explained. Well worth any charges of “hypocrisy” in my mind.

This is horrible, horrible, horrible.

HORRIBLE. I’m actually crying right now.

If you are a victim of domestic violence, you can seek help and advice anonymously from the National Domestic Violence Hotline, RAINN or a wide variety of other nationwide, state and local organizations. This is NOT OKAY, ladies. NOT EVER.

Last night I was at a bar for trivia night with some friends, and one of the guys was like, “So, they’re not charging Chris Brown with anything, eh?” and I was like, “Ummmm, where did you hear that?” and he was like, “Well he hasn’t been charged with anything, and it’s the DA who has to charge him, so he must not be charged with anything.”

Um. NO.

The District Attoney’s office doesn’t always just make a case overnight, and Chris is NOT out of the woods right now. This is a total misconception, and now I’m worried that everyone thinks this guy has gotten off scott-free just because he’s not in jail right now. NOT TRUE.

The DA is currently collecting evidence to charge Chris with MULTIPLE felonies:

At the request of the Los Angeles District Attorney’s Office, the R&B star is being investigated for a variety of felonies, including domestic violence, assault resulting in great bodily injury and—based on specific allegations made by Rihanna—even attempted murder, says a source close the office.

So, no, folks.

This is NOT over yet.