Comments on: Quotables

By: Teamtreb

Teamtreb — Wed, 11 Mar 2009 04:52:50 +0000

There are no guarantees that your kids would look after you in your old age either.

I have two kids and couldn’t imagine life without them despite them making me want to rip my hair out most days. But, kids aren’t for everyone and nothing’s worse than having kids because you think you should or because it’s the thing to do.

By: Teamtreb

Teamtreb — Wed, 11 Mar 2009 04:50:49 +0000

There are no guarantees that your kids would take care of you in your old age either.

By: The Beaver State

The Beaver State — Wed, 11 Mar 2009 03:11:05 +0000

I have never had a desire to have children. I like my life as quiet and stress-free as possible. However, I am worried that if we don’t have children, there won’t be anyone to take care of me when I’m old (you can pay someone to take care of you, but you can’t pay someone to love you). But I don’t know if that’s really a good enough reason to have a child! Maybe if I could just skip straight to age 10?

I’m glad that women can now have both a career and children if they wish… but I see pregnant women having to work almost until their due date and they are miserable. I’d want to stay home through the entire pregnancy, but that is socially and financially unacceptable these days.

By: Heatherlyisaverb

Heatherlyisaverb — Wed, 11 Mar 2009 02:43:23 +0000

I went to uni because other people wanted me to, and as much as I have quit being a lawyer, which is what I studied, because I moved to a country that did not accept my qualifications, I am kinda glad I have a fall back plan. I fully intend to be a stay at home Mum and do the rest of the work I do from home for the rest of my days BUT if my fiance is killed or we break up or he becomes disabled and can’t work, I can still earn enough to keep my family together.
I would do anything to move back in time to where my only role was to cook and clean. But as my very modern mother said “you don’t have to like work, you just have to go.”

By: Abbi

Abbi — Wed, 11 Mar 2009 02:04:29 +0000

It just bothers me that all the ‘adults’ in my life (i’m 18) insist that because i’m 18 i don’t know what I want, and because THEY regret not going to college and having 9-5’s that I will. I’m engaged and they all think its way too young… i just wish that i could go BACK to the 50s so nobody would bother me. Its my life and if I’m making a mistake (i’m not) it’s MY mistake to make and people should let me make it.
I’m glad I didn’t get attacked on here for having my very unusual opinion, it happens enough as it is.

By: Heatherlyisaverb

Heatherlyisaverb — Wed, 11 Mar 2009 01:35:28 +0000

100% agree. And a good summation of this is Julia Stile’s speech in the movie Mona Lisa Smile.

On the other hand, women who have children simply because they feel they ’should’ or to satisfy their own parents are not doing the best thing for themselves or there kids.

Have ‘em if you want ‘em, don’t if you don’t!

By: Mercedes

Mercedes — Wed, 11 Mar 2009 01:31:31 +0000

I kind of like it

By: ThatLisa

ThatLisa — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 20:21:23 +0000

I agree with the not-selfish thing, Canaduck.

I think it’s more selfish to have a ton of children that the world can’t support, via Octomom and over population

By: Mercedes

Mercedes — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 20:18:04 +0000

Yeah, I absolutely agree with both of you. I actually don’t understand why this isn’t mainstream yet. Also, I think it depends on where you live, too. So when people in your area look at you like you have 2 heads, just remember people in my part of the world are supporting you and doing the same thing :)

By: Abbi

Abbi — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 19:22:41 +0000

And then you get the people who look at women who want children and want to stay at home like they’re useless people. I’ve mentioned how I would love to just be a housewife before, and have gotten so much shit for saying it. It’s like with women finally get rights but now it’s like we HAVE to go to school and be 9-5 workers or “we’ll regret it forever”. So there can be no happy medium really… it makes me so angry. I say I want to stay at home and people tell me that I’m wasting my intelligence.

By: Donkey Punch

Donkey Punch — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 19:19:29 +0000

I agree partially. I would be less harsh and say a benefit of being chubby is larger breasts. Having the fat and no breasts is the worst of both worlds.

By: Chocolate Doll

Chocolate Doll — Tue, 10 Mar 2009 18:56:16 +0000

I agree. When I say I don’t want children, people look at me like I have two heads. The reality is that some people are not wired for parenthood-cough-my parents-cough and recognizing that takes great forethought.