As for Raven, sure you raise a good point that she is making a “terrible role model”, but where her behavior differs is that what she does will only directly affect her. Sure, indirectly someone could gain negative influence from her behavior, but directly not too much harm is done if any. Another reason people don’t look at Raven’s behavior the same way, is because for an over-weight person, losing weight is work. You can’t just decide to stop eating one day and receive an immediate about face. I think people sympathize with that.

I suspect to some degree, women might come down harder on Lindsay, Britney and Paris because of some element of their own jealously. I know in my past if I had a really pretty girlfriend, I’d hear women mumble “slut” under their breath as she walked by. They would know nothing about her and yet make quick judgement. As for Raven, I suspect women don’t attack her nearly as much, because she makes them feel better about being lazy and reckless with their own eating habits.

In todays world it seems like women have excuses for lots of things. If they over eat and get lazy, they blame their obesity on child birth, age or some medical condition. If they let a daycare raise their child, they blame ADHD or XYZ or ABC on why their child has no discipline. Not every problem can be solved with a pill and sometimes a person needs to be held accountable for his or her own behavior. For example if it’s so true that women eat like a mouse and still gain weight, why is it that there were no obese concentration camp survivors? Just FOOD for thought.

Bottom line, people are all different, that’s the way God made everyone and that’s just how Raven is, there doesn’t have to be an explanation even if there probably is no one but her knows it.